The Queensland household had a stunning birthday celebration for 20-year-old Daniel however a obvious element broke their hearts.
Donna Mcdowall celebrated the twentieth birthday of her solely youngster, Daniel, like each different yr.
It was September 22 final yr and medical workers had discharged her from hospital earlier that day as she battled a abdomen an infection, permitting her to get preparations below means earlier than the friends arrived that night time.
She made lasagne and salad adopted by tiramisu for dessert — Daniel’s favourites.
Family and friends got here to her residence in Hervey Bay, a coastal city in southern Queensland, to sing pleased birthday.
However there was one main drawback — the birthday boy wasn’t in a position to attend.
“We stored his birthday the identical,” Ms Mcdowall informed information.com.au. “It was like he was nonetheless right here.”
Daniel tragically took his personal life earlier that yr on February 25.
Ms Mcdowall was the one who discovered his physique.
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Though Daniel’s twentieth has opened recent wounds about his tragic demise, Ms Mcdowall is decided to talk up in order that different younger individuals don’t endure the identical destiny.
The one mom described him being in a “heavy, darkish place” when he took his life and doesn’t need anybody else to comply with in his footsteps.
February 25 is etched into her reminiscence.
“Daniel gave me a kiss at quarter previous 9 that night time and stated ‘Mum, I really like you’,” she recalled.
“Then he walked away, walked out the again door.
“I used to be on the cellphone to my mum (for some time) and thought I’d examine on him.
“I noticed him (mendacity) below the steps. Then hell simply broke unfastened.”
The distraught mom carried out CPR for 20 minutes, then a pal of Daniel’s who had been staying on the home labored on him for one more 10 minutes.
After half an hour, police and paramedics arrived
“Cops did an superior job, (they) spent 4 hours within the yard,” she stated.
Tragically, Daniel was pronounced lifeless on the scene.
Ms Mcdowall knew her son had been battling despair for a while.
Daniel was an exemplary pupil, volunteering as a navy cadet from the age of 14 and profitable an award for engineering when he was in 12 months 10.
“Over that Christmas interval Daniel messed round with the improper children,” his mum stated.
He began off with dope then took heavier occasion medicine.
Across the identical time he had a falling out with associates and likewise broke up along with his girlfriend.
By 12 months 11, in 2019, he was very depressed and needed to depart faculty.
“Daniel was left stranded and didn’t return to high school (although) he wished to complete Grade 12. He fell proper in a pit, his despair bought worse,” Ms Mcdowall defined.
All through 2020, Daniel was consistently hospitalised for his psychological sickness for 2 and three weeks at a time.
In all, he was despatched to the emergency psychological well being ward seven occasions for a complete of 14 weeks.
“It drove him loopy,” Ms Mcdowall stated. “They put him within the part the place they put the straitjacket individuals.”
“None of them (the docs) had been on the identical web page.”
He was given a cocktail of medicines, together with a drug that made him “like a zombie”.
Weaning himself off that, Daniel was then placed on some milder antidepressants that appeared to be working nonetheless it had a detrimental facet impact — he was quickly gaining weight.
“His footy went to sh*t, he couldn’t sustain his health,” Ms Mcdowall stated.
“His dream of becoming a member of the navy was over. I felt so unhealthy that his dream was squashed. From a little bit boy, that was all he wished to do, comply with in his mum and pop’s (footsteps).
“It actually broke him.”
He grew to become “adamant” that he didn’t want the remedy and as an alternative of going off it slowly, went chilly turkey, regardless of his mom’s objections.
Nearly instantly he had one other relapse and went again to hospital.
Within the lead as much as his demise, Daniel was placed on one more remedy. This time it wasn’t within the type of a tablet however as an alternative needed to be injected into his bloodstream each fortnight.
“He hated needles, he bought anxious and pissed off,” his mom stated.
“He knew if he didn’t go to the physician’s he can be below psychological well being orders, cops would come and drag him there.”
Three weeks earlier than his demise, he “stormed” into his physician’s workplace demanding he be taken off the remedy. He threatened to kill himself.
Daniel’s demise is being investigated by the coroner. The investigation is predicted to take 18 months.